Are we all just existing

   One of the biggest mysteries in life comes to our mind when the question pops up, are we living or just existing? And what does it mean to just exist and not live? I have been thinking about this since some time now, and am I any close to the answer nope I don’t think so. It’s one of those big mysteries in life for me. Most of us on this planet have a fixed schedule for most of our days. We wake up, go to work, come back home tired and then just go to sleep. The most amazing thing here is most of us work because we have to feed ourselves and our family and not because we like the work we are doing. It’s just a few lucky people in this world who are doing what they want to do in life. But, have you ever wondered, are these people really lucky or were they determined enough to fight the odds stacked against them and just refused to join the rat race.

    The gist of the matter is that most of us had big dreams when we were children, the time when we were carefree and when we had no responsibilities and had a very free and open mind to think or accept anything. But then as we grew up, a lot of responsibilities started falling on our shoulders and everyone started expecting things from us. So as a responsible grown up we convinced ourselves that dreams are just that ... Dreams and it’s time to wake up  and you don’t dream when you are awake. So, we joined the rat race , to earn more money, to buy that big house, to drive around town in that luxury car and the latest gadgets and of course cool clothes. Yes, our dreams never stopped, we never stopped dreaming. It’s just that our dreams changed from becoming to having. From being what you wanted to be the idea changed to being rich. Everyone wants to be rich , well almost everyone. Our dreams just got materialistic they never stopped.

    As we are grownups now, we apply more logic to our thinking, we no longer think freely like children. We are no longer carefree and we are burdened by responsibilities. So we have started thinking about the stuff we want rather than the life we want. But that’s not the only thing, we have also come to realize the responsibilities we have towards our family and the society as a whole. So does thinking about our dreams make us selfish, in a way it does, because you will be only thinking about your dreams and not anyone else’s. Yes if you have secured your family then there is nothing stopping you from pursuing your dreams. If you still stop then you are being plain straight lazy.  But then the question still remains unanswered are you living or just existing. 

   What is important in life is to work towards making your dreams come true. What I feel is it’s not about living or existing, but about trying. Whatever the time, whatever the age, remember it’s never too late to try and make your dreams come true. Remember it’s better to try and fail than not to try at all. Go ahead Live, don’t just exist.

Live it up

No one stays forever,

Time Just Flows Like a River,

Once gone will return never,

Acquaintances melt away and friends become fewer,

But that's life live it with all vigour.

When all is said and done,

It’s time to have some fun,

Forget Things that are gone and past,

It’s the memories that will forever last.

Life is Journey treasure it

Take a deep breath and enjoy every bit

For once you breathe, for once you live

Everyday is the beginning of something new.

On wild sex and the use of words

Okay I put a pretty explosive heading by Indian standards, but that's exactly what I want to speak about, the way words are, the way they change their nature, because of the way they are used, and the way we perceive them. Now what in the world am I blabbing about, let me just try and explain. This thought came across in my head when I was about to switch off the T.V. ( the thing we call the idiot box) last night. Well there splashed right across the screen were the words WILD SEX, I mean my eyeballs popped out. Of course it was twelve in the night, but this is still India. Then I just happened to notice the name of the channel- NATIONAL GEOGRAPHIC - happy realization to me. For those who don't know WILD SEX here means something to do with wild animals, by wild animals I don't mean the once found in the human population this refers to the kind that are found in the forests of the world.

Now imagine the same words splashed across the screen of some television channel which keeps showing raunchy, crude or vulgar content and the meaning completely changes. I mean it’s the same set of words, but now here it means different, or does it really. No, the words still mean the same, but the way we see it changes. We are okay or maybe we just have more tolerance to the sexual acts shown on screen, when it’s between animals or for that matter even insects. That brings me to the topic of words and how we perceive it. What are words, words are parts of sentences which when used in a particular way will convey a particular meaning. They are pretty powerful things. To illustrate that further let me go back to a video I had heard a few years ago, this particular video was dealing with the use of the word F*CK, well I don’t remember the whole of the video but just to state, the word F*CK has become a word in the English language which can convey different meanings, i mean it might be the only word which might be able to do that. Let’s see how

I am in a mess – I am F*cked ( gutted)

F*ck you (Anger)

F*uck off ( Irritation)

What the F*uck (Surprise)

F*uck it ( to let go)

Ohhhhh F*uck ( Satisfaction)

I know there are many more creative ways in which you will be able to use the word, and I am sure you might be using it as well. Some of the more creative population of this world have found out replacement words for the word F*uck. Some use Fish, like its goes what the Fish, now fish or chips, what’s the point of using fish in place of F*uck when you mean the same F*ucking thing. A different word to convey the same meaning, just because it makes you feel you haven’t used a swear word and anyway, I will fish your happiness doesn’t even create the same kind of impact. 

Now this is according to me, and according to what I feel, your views might be different and I respect that. What I feel is it’s not the words that affect us, by themselves these words are just that words, it’s the way we say them and the way we perceive them that matters. When we want to swear at someone, we can very well do it without using even one of the patented swear words. The reverse is true as well, when someone uses swear words or rough language on us, they will affect us only when we take it in the way they are said. I had mentioned earlier that words are powerful and they can affect people, so while it’s important for us to use them responsibly and in a civil sort of way, you need to understand this as well, that words can’t affect us if we don’t let them affect us. 

The point behind writing this is to try and explain to you that unless and until you don’t let anyone affect you by their words, you simply cannot be affected, I know it’s difficult not to feel hurt or not to respond in kind, but unless you try, it will never happen. Remember words are just that, WORDS and nothing more, it’s up to us what meaning we are going to attribute to it. So try and stay pure, and try to stay happy. Cheers, and don’t try to kick me the author for trying to preach in such a weird sort of way .